
I have a great Friday topic that was pushed back last week due to the ridiculous
Terry Jones Debacle and yet again another topic pushes to the front of the line. Maybe someday we will get to talk about school supplies?
I wanted some extra feedback on this one and have a mission for you, so I'm posting Feedback Friday a little early this week.
Remember my
Summer Party? Remember how excited I was? Remember all the planning? Remember it all went off without a hitch and turned out to be a great night for all my friends?
Well, it all came crashing down this week as I was shocked to discover the following anonymous email in my inbox:
-----Original Message-----From: Dewey Beach [mailto:deweybeachboy@gmail.com]Sent: Friday, September 10, 2010 10:35 PMTo: xxxxxxxxx(I erased my own email address)Subject: Partymyself and my family find your actions regarding your guest list last week short sighted and damaging to the unity you presrcibe to endorse for the neighborhood...(the typos and no caps. lead me to believe it was sent from a phone)
Huh...
That was all I could think at first! (Notice I left the original sender's email address for any friends that want to help me weed out this weasel! In case you missed it, the email address is
deweybeachboy@gmail.comI would like to invite any and all of you to go ahead and give him a piece of your mind after you take a moment to give me your feedback here today. And if you can help me figure out the owner of this account, all the better!)
I thought of all kinds of comebacks for this person, I wanted to tell him to go cry to his mama, I wanted to ask him what he's done for me lately, I wanted to invite him to form a support group with the other 38 out of 50 homes in my neighborhood who were also not invited to my personal party. I wanted to tell him I don't hang out with anonymous bullies who hide behind fake names to harass people for not inviting him to parties.
I wanted to ask him to really think about the following questions:
Are we friends or just friendly?Do we hang out and go to dinner or do other fun things together?Have you ever invited me to your house?Have I ever even seen the inside of your house?Have you ever invited every single person in the neighborhood to your home for a party?Would I call you if I needed help?Do we have a deeper relationship other than saying "hi" at the bus stop?Are our children good friends who often play together?This was the criteria I used to develop my guest list for my party. Wrong?
Two years ago I invited my friends as well as everyone on my street to a party and it was a disaster - too big! We spent the entire night feeding people, changing trash bags and toilet paper rolls, and stocking drinks. Never again. In fact, it was so overwhelming we didn't even HAVE the party last year. During our one year break, the group of neighbors who I invited the year before never reached out to me in a way that indicated they wanted to be more than "chat at the bus stop" neighbors. So, this year a new and improved guest list was devised. Much more manageable and affordable.
I decided to take the high road and take pity on this small, pitiful, sneaky, bullying person who went to such lengths almost a week after the party to set up a secret account and send me this email. I responded as follows:
I'm sorry, but I don't know who this is, could you identify yourself?
If you are referring to my Labor Day party, that is my own family party and not a neighborhood function. I supply the main meal, the alcohol, and the entertainment from my own pocket. Neighbors are all welcome to attend the neighborhood Christmas party, or plan a summer neighborhood party of your own.
If you would care to discuss it, I would love to speak with you.
Warmly,
JenIt's
Feedback Friday -
Do you feel compelled to invite every family in your neighborhood to your home whenever you have a party?
Would you ever confront a neighbor for having a party you were not invited to?
Also, remember to pass your thoughts along to
deweybeachboy@gmail.com
Honey, don't mess with us bloggers. Just sayin'.
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