One of my son's previous teachers contacted me last month about a frame. She mentioned that she was about to deliver her second child any day. Before we communicated again, I heard through a mutual friend that she had indeed delivered a son and that he was born with Down's Syndrome (a diagnosis they were unaware of until birth). The mother had sent out an email explaining the situation to her friends and colleagues soon after birth.
When it was time to contact the mom I was conflicted about what to say to her. I knew I would congratulate her on the birth of her son, but should I also mention the diagnosis? How would I do it and what words would I use? My intent was to congratulate her and maybe acknowledge the diagnosis without sounding like I was sorry, because it isn't like a disease. This child could become the joy of her life.
Is it better to let her tell me personally before mentioning it? Is it even any of my business to worry about???
So, it's Feedback Friday...
What would you do?